{"id":23822,"date":"2026-06-17T21:19:26","date_gmt":"2026-06-17T20:19:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/yassinebentaleb.com\/?p=23822"},"modified":"2026-06-18T16:48:19","modified_gmt":"2026-06-18T15:48:19","slug":"how-to-know-what-you-actually-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yassinebentaleb.com\/en\/how-to-know-what-you-actually-want\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Know What You Actually Want"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Knowing what you actually want” doesn’t descend in a moment of inspiration. It’s built through observation, experience, and exclusion.<\/p>\n

Many wait for a clear sign that doesn’t come. In the end, they remain spectators, certain they need to “find themselves” first, then move. The reverse is correct: through movement you learn what you want.<\/p>\n

Why this is so hard<\/h2>\n

We confuse our desires with others’ desires<\/h3>\n

A lot of what we consider desire comes from outside: family expectations, social standards, comparisons. Separating what’s yours from what’s a borrowed model is the first step.<\/p>\n

We expect a complete sign<\/h3>\n

We want to be confident, fully confident, before moving. But the sign comes through experience, not through prior waiting. Whoever waits for full confidence before beginning condemns themselves to standing still, not clarity.<\/p>\n

What clarifies when you move<\/h2>\n

In my framework, intention is the first pillar: clarity of direction with knowledge of who it serves and why now. Direction inside intention doesn’t come from sitting in place.<\/p>\n

How to clarify what you want<\/h2>\n

Watch what gives you full energy<\/h3>\n

What do you do without asking yourself why? What can you sustain doing the level of effort even when stuck at a low resolve point? Pay attention to these signals here, not on what’s expected.<\/p>\n

Watch what tires you<\/h3>\n

What makes you feel filled without a clear cause? What do you avoid until it becomes inevitable? Tracking what attracts you and what tires you tells you a lot.<\/p>\n

Take a step and observe what happens<\/h3>\n

What you actually want appears in experience, not in thinking. A small step gives you more clarity than an entire hour of overthinking.<\/p>\n

What’s next?<\/h2>\n

Knowing what you want is a journey, not a moment. It begins with a clear enough direction for the next step, and continuity, mastery, and impact follow.<\/p>\n

Next step:<\/strong> Read the Method<\/a><\/p>\n

Frequently Asked Questions<\/h2>\n

Can our desires change with time?<\/h3>\n

Yes, and this is natural. But the difference between a desire that changes through experience and a desire that changes by impulsive reaction is large.<\/p>\n

What if I don’t have a clear direction afterward?<\/h3>\n

Define tentative directions and start with a small step in one. What you experience during the experience is far clearer than what you’ll be alone with thinking.<\/p>\n

Is regret evidence of the wrong choice?<\/h3>\n

Often. But regret might also mean facing a real cost you hadn’t realized before. If you discover a real tension in you, this deserves attention.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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